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Feb. 22, 2026

BigSexyChat S5 Ep.2: The Story Behind Jen McClellan’s TEDx Talk – Weight Bias & Advocacy

BigSexyChat S5 Ep.2: The Story Behind Jen McClellan’s TEDx Talk – Weight Bias & Advocacy

What does it really take to step onto a TEDx stage… and what happens after the applause fades? In this episode of Big Sexy Chat, fan-favorite guest Jen McClellan returns to share the deeply personal story behind her recent TEDx talk. While many people see the polished final talk, few…

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Feb. 22, 2026

She Read Hurtful Comments About Herself… On Stage

She Read Hurtful Comments About Herself… On Stage

Imagine standing on a stage… and hearing the worst things people have said about you… out loud. Not imagined. Not exaggerated. Real comments. Real screenshots. That’s what Jen McClellan did during her TEDx talk. And in that moment, with all of it echoing around her, she kept telling herself: hold…

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Feb. 22, 2026

Even Confident Speakers Feel This Before a TEDx Talk

Even Confident Speakers Feel This Before a TEDx Talk

She’s spoken for years. Taught full rooms. Owned the stage. And still… this was different. Because this time, it wasn’t about teaching. It was about being seen. Sharing her own story. Facing the fear, the internalized voices, and the quiet question of “what will people think?” Even something as simple…

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Feb. 22, 2026

What It REALLY Takes to Give a TEDx Talk 🎤

What It REALLY Takes to Give a TEDx Talk 🎤

Everyone sees the TEDx talk… but almost no one hears the story behind it. Jen McClellan returns to Big Sexy Chat to share what it actually took to step onto that stage. The vulnerability. The pressure. The preparation. And the reality of navigating the world in a fat body while…

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Jan. 25, 2026

BigSexyChat S4 Ep.16 Still Here, Still Fat: What 2025 Took, What 2026 Demands

BigSexyChat S4 Ep.16 Still Here, Still Fat: What 2025 Took, What 2026 Demands

As 2025 comes to a close, Big Sexy Chat gathers for a powerful, unfiltered roundtable on what this year took from the fat community, what it revealed, and what 2026 is demanding in return. Joined by Saucye West, Bruce Sturgell, and Ronald Young Jr., we move beyond headlines and buzzwords…

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Jan. 25, 2026

BigSexyChat S5 Ep.1: Dare To Date – Meet Hips, Crips & Queers

BigSexyChat S5 Ep.1: Dare To Date – Meet Hips, Crips & Queers

What if dating apps were built for real bodies, real needs, and real safety? In this Season 5 premiere of Big Sexy Chat, we sit down with Liz Gewirtz, founder of Hips, Crips & Queers, a new dating and community platform centering queer, fat, disabled, and older folks. Liz shares…

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Jan. 25, 2026

Dating Apps & Erasure | When “Preference” Means Exclusion

Dating Apps & Erasure | When “Preference” Means Exclusion

“If you’re fat, they swipe left. If you’re disabled, they swipe left. If you’re older, they swipe left.” Dating apps like to call it “preference.” A lot of people experience it as erasure. This clip gets into why so many people give up on dating apps entirely, and what alternatives…

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Jan. 25, 2026

Dating While Fat | “I Don’t Waste My Time”

Dating While Fat | “I Don’t Waste My Time”

“I don’t waste my time.” Dating while fat is already complicated. Add age, disability, or anything else outside the algorithm’s favorite body type, and honesty becomes survival. Chrystal says what a lot of people live. Season 5, Episode 1 of Big Sexy Chat is out now. 🎧 Listen here: https://www.bigsexychat.com/dare-to-date-meet-hips-crips-queers/

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Jan. 25, 2026

A Dating App for Fat, Disabled & Queer Folks | Hips, Crips & Queers

A Dating App for Fat, Disabled & Queer Folks | Hips, Crips & Queers

A dating app that centers fat, disabled, queer, and older folks. No weight-loss talk. No hiding your body. No pretending you’re smaller than you are. This clip explains what Hips, Crips & Queers was built to be, and who it’s for. Full conversation in Big Sexy Chat Season 5, Episode…

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Jan. 25, 2026

Season 5 Begins | Who Dating Apps Leave Out

Season 5 Begins | Who Dating Apps Leave Out

New season. New episode. New conversations about who dating apps are actually built for. We’re talking community, safety, desire, boundaries, and what gets left out of most platforms. Season 5 starts here. 🎧 Full episode: https://www.bigsexychat.com/dare-to-date-meet-hips-crips-queers/

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Jan. 25, 2026

Self-Love Isn’t a Journey Forever | Saucye on Loving Yourself

Self-Love Isn’t a Journey Forever | Saucye on Loving Yourself

“I don’t want loving yourself to be a forever journey. I want it to end at ‘I love myself. Period.’” This hit us hard. So many people are told to keep working toward self-love like it’s a finish line they never quite reach. This is a reminder that you don’t…

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Jan. 25, 2026

Pizza or Tacos? Hard Pants or Soft Pants? | Big Sexy Chat This or That

Pizza or Tacos? Hard Pants or Soft Pants? | Big Sexy Chat This or That

Pizza or tacos? Hard pants or soft pants? Hand or toy? C*ck or mock? (you’ll have to listen to the full episode for that one.) Important questions only. Life-altering decisions. The fate of civilization, probably. This episode gets heavy in all the right ways, but we also made room for…

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Jan. 25, 2026

Why 2025 Exhausted the Fat Community

Why 2025 Exhausted the Fat Community

This part of the conversation felt like someone finally saying the quiet thing out loud. If it was too hard, say that. If you’re tired, say that. If you couldn’t do it anymore, say that. What made 2025 exhausting wasn’t change. It was dishonesty. Ronald puts words to something so…

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Jan. 25, 2026

Fat Men & Vulnerability | Why We Need These Conversations

Fat Men & Vulnerability | Why We Need These Conversations

We don’t see enough space for men of any size to talk openly about their bodies, their feelings, or what they’re carrying. This moment with Bruce from Chubstr matters because vulnerability shouldn’t be rare, and it shouldn’t be brave just to be honest. There’s so much here that doesn’t get…

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Jan. 25, 2026

The Dark Side of Body Positivity | Who Gets Left Behind

The Dark Side of Body Positivity | Who Gets Left Behind

“We’ll take the pretty ones… but leave everyone else behind.” If that sentence made your stomach drop, good. Because that’s the part of body positivity we don’t talk about enough. Ronald names how acceptability sneaks in, how value gets assigned, and how harm can still happen even inside movements meant…

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Jan. 25, 2026

Body Positivity vs Fat Liberation | Why “Acceptance” Isn’t Freedom

Body Positivity vs Fat Liberation | Why “Acceptance” Isn’t Freedom

Body positivity was never built for everyone. And pretending it was doesn’t make that harm disappear. Saucye breaks down the difference between feeling “acceptable” and being truly free, and why fat liberation isn’t about fitting in. It’s about being seen without conditions. This isn’t a soundbite. It’s a truth. 🎧…

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Jan. 25, 2026

What 2025 Took From the Fat Community & What 2026 Demands

What 2025 Took From the Fat Community & What 2026 Demands

This episode isn’t about hot takes. It’s about taking stock. What 2025 took. What it exposed. And what we’re still willing to fight for as we move into 2026. If you’ve been feeling tired, conflicted, hopeful, angry, or all of the above, this conversation is for you. 🎧 Still Here,…

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Jan. 10, 2026

Big Sexy Chat: 2025. 4 years. 75 episodes later. #buzzsproutplayback

Big Sexy Chat: 2025. 4 years. 75 episodes later. #buzzsproutplayback
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Dec. 19, 2025

Get Paid to Review Sex Toys? | BigSexyChat

Get Paid to Review Sex Toys? | BigSexyChat

Imagine getting paid $40 to review a sex toy. Yes. That’s the whole sentence. In this clip from Big Sexy Chat, we talk side hustles, sex toys, and why ToyChats is opening doors for everyday people to share honest feedback while getting compensated for their time and experience. If pleasure…

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Dec. 19, 2025

You Don’t Need to Be an Influencer | BigSexyChat

You Don’t Need to Be an Influencer | BigSexyChat

Spoiler alert: you don’t need a massive following. You just need to be real. In this clip from Big Sexy Chat, we talk about how ToyChats centers everyday people, real bodies, and honest opinions, not influencer polish. That’s the magic. That’s what makes reviews actually useful. If you’ve ever thought,…

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Dec. 19, 2025

What Is ToyChats, Really? | BigSexyChat

What Is ToyChats, Really? | BigSexyChat

So… what is ToyChats anyway? In this clip from Big Sexy Chat, we break down what makes ToyChats different: real people reviewing real sex toys, without brand scripts or marketing nonsense. If you’ve ever side-eyed a too-polished toy review before buying, this conversation will make you feel very seen. Honest…

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Dec. 19, 2025

Teen Merf Was Predictable, Actually | BigSexyChat

Teen Merf Was Predictable, Actually | BigSexyChat

Teen Merf: “I could make these dolls do things.” Adult Merf: Yep. That checks out. In this hilarious clip from Big Sexy Chat, we reflect on early curiosity, imagination, and how some personality traits are simply lifelong companions. Chaotic, funny, and deeply on brand. 🎧 Watch the full episode here:…

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Dec. 19, 2025

Who Really Innovates Sex Tech? | BigSexyChat

Who Really Innovates Sex Tech? | BigSexyChat

Queer communities. Disabled communities. Sex workers. In this clip from Big Sexy Chat, we talk about where some of the most important sex tech innovation actually comes from. From community brilliance to accessible design, this moment highlights why better, safer pleasure exists because people demanded it. Yes, there’s a “drill-do.”…

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Dec. 19, 2025

DIY Sex Tech, Accessibility & Brilliant Horny Ingenuity | BigSexyChat

DIY Sex Tech, Accessibility & Brilliant Horny Ingenuity | BigSexyChat

People are wildly creative when they’re horny, especially when access and pleasure are on the line. In this clip from Big Sexy Chat, Chrystal shares a DIY pleasure hack from a sex worker friend that had everyone yelling “BRILLIANT.” It’s a perfect example of how accessibility, creativity, and desire collide…

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