Episodes

Send us Fan Mail Big Sexy Chat: Fat Adventure Wins with Amber Karnes What happens when you stop waiting for permission to live? This week Crystal sits down with Amber Karnes, longtime body positive yoga teacher turned adventure guide, for a conversation about surfing at 42, hiking Valley of Fire, why liberated fat people are bad for business, and why the ocean, the trail, and the hot spring belong to all of us too. Amber and Crystal have known each other for over a decade from the fat liberati...

Send us Fan Mail Most pleasure products are designed as if everyone has long arms, effortless flexibility, and a body that never changes. That assumption quietly shuts out fat folks and people with disabilities, then asks us to blame our bodies when the toy is hard to hold, the buttons are impossible to reach, or the “plus-size” gear still snaps under real weight. We wanted a better conversation, so we brought in Marina Hayes, the velvet-robed visionary behind Peridot Robes, to talk about wha...

Send us Fan Mail The gym can feel like a test you’re doomed to fail, especially when the world treats your body like public property. Chrystal sits down with Roz the Diva, a plus-size Black pole dancer, coach, and lifter, to talk about gym intimidation and why it blocks so many people from even getting started. We get honest about the double bind of being fat in public, and we name the bigger truth: most of us are chasing the same thing in fitness, which is belonging. Roz shares what she’s l...

Send a text In this episode of Big Sexy Chat, Chrystal sits down with Candace Frank, the artist and designer behind Chub Rub Clothing, a brand creating bold fashion, art, and accessories rooted in fat liberation and unapologetic joy. Candace shares how growing up fat and unable to find clothes that fit pushed her to start making her own. That creative spark eventually led to an MFA in Costume Design and a career designing clothing that refuses to hide fat bodies. Together, Chrystal and Candac...

Send a text This episode is a little different. It’s not a typical Big Sexy Chat conversation… It’s something softer, heavier, and a lot more personal. Merf joins Asherlee (co-producer & editor for Big Sexy Chat) for an honest, unfiltered conversation about her decision to step away from Big Sexy Chat and what led her there. They talk about the weight of the world right now, the reality of needing to refocus, and what it means to choose yourself in a moment where everything feels uncertai...

Send a text Everyone sees the talk. Few hear the story behind it. JenX: The Story Behind the Talk Fan-favorite guest Jen McClellan returns to Big Sexy Chat to take us behind the scenes of her recent TEDx talk and the deeply personal journey that led her to the red circle. Jen is the founder of Plus Size Birth and host of the Plus Mommy Podcast, where she has spent years educating care providers about weight bias and advocating for respectful, dignified treatment in healthcare. In this...

Send us a text What if dating apps were built for real bodies? Real needs. Real safety. In this episode, we sit down with Liz Gewirtz, the founder of Hips, Crips & Queers, a new dating and community platform centering queer, fat, disabled, and older folks. Liz shares what pushed her to build something entirely different from the swipe-and-discard culture most of us know too well, and what it looks like to design a space rooted in fat liberation, disability justice, consent, and actual hum...

Send us a text As 2025 comes to a close, Big Sexy Chat gathers for an end-of-year roundtable conversation about what this year took, what it revealed, and what the fat community is being asked to carry forward into 2026. Joined by Saucye West, Bruce Sturgell, and Ronald Young Jr., this conversation moves beyond headlines and buzzwords to talk honestly about autonomy, weight loss culture, respectability politics, community fatigue, and the realities of staying visible in a world that keeps ask...

Send us a text In this episode, we’re joined by Cam Jennings from ToyChats.com, a platform built entirely around user-generated sex toy reviews. We talk about why ToyChats exists in the first place, how the platform actually works, and what makes a review useful versus just noise. Cam breaks down the difference between brand-driven reviews and reviews from real people, how reviewers get paid, and what they’re looking for before a review goes live. We also dig into why ToyChats actively wants ...

Send us a text In this episode of Big Sexy Chat, Chrystal, Merf, and Asherlee dive piston-first into the wild, fascinating, and sometimes downright hilarious world of sex machines, electricity play, and the evolving landscape of pleasure tech. From the history of 19th-century “medical devices” to modern thrusting rigs, ride-on machines, smart toys, and hyper-realistic sex dolls, the trio explores the creativity, accessibility, and kink curiosity shaping today’s sex-positive culture. You’ll he...

Send us a text This week, we’re honored to sit down with the brilliant Rawiyah Tariq; a Black, fat, disabled, and neurodivergent artist, writer, and healer whose work reclaims space for marginalized bodies and spirits through ritual, storytelling, and embodiment. In this conversation, Rawiyah shares the wisdom behind their practice, A Sovereign Embodiment, and speaks candidly about navigating medical trauma, reclaiming pleasure through kink, and redefining beauty and power on their own terms...

Send us a text Mary Lambert joins us for a powerful, intimate, and joyful conversation that bridges music, activism, and radical self-love. From her breakout with Same Love to her new anthem The Tempest, Mary shares how art becomes resistance and why fat liberation is at the heart of her work. We dive into: The story and politics behind The Tempest and why every lyric matters.How Mary’s journey through poetry, community, and visibility shaped her fat liberation voice.Building the Fat Friendly...

Send us a text What does it mean to carry the weight of representation as a fat, Black traveler on the global stage? In this episode of Big Sexy Chat, Chrystal and Merf sit down with Jeff Jenkins, award-winning travel and food personality, speaker, podcast host, and creator of Chubby Diaries. Jeff is also the former host of Never Say Never with Jeff Jenkins on National Geographic, where he brought inclusive, joyful storytelling to audiences worldwide We dive into: Jeff’s journey from persona...

Send a text Chrystal and Merf welcome back Amazon Amanda, towering fetish icon, professional Amazon, and founder of BBW XXX Adventures, for Confessions of an Amazon: Fetishes, Fat Desire & Power. Amanda takes us inside her world of fetish, where “no nudity, no sex, no release” still means high intensity. From lift-and-carry sessions and scissor holds to the creation of BBW XXX Adventures, she shares how she built a career that celebrates fat desire, supersized BBWs, and true body diversit...

Send us a text This week on Big Sexy Chat, we’re joined by the incomparable Sheri Winston — award-winning author, wholistic sexuality teacher, and founder of the Intimate Arts Center — for a deep, delicious, and occasionally freaky conversation that peels back layers (literally and figuratively) on pleasure, anatomy, aging, and so much more. We’re talking foreskins, pelvic floors, prostate play, menopause, masturbation, and why spontaneous arousal is a myth worth retiring. In this episode, we...

Send us a text In this juicy new episode of Big Sexy Chat, Chrystal and Merf are back with updates, laughter, and deep dives into fat pleasure, power exchange, and the ways we signal our sexy truths to the world. 🎙️ Merf shares her exciting new job and consulting biz helping survivors of trauma, plus her upcoming debut as a dominatrix (meet Madam Cyn)! 💬 Chrystal talks about her recent seminar, and the joys of building body-positive merch from scratch. 🔥 Together, they explore BDSM dungeon d...

Send a text Traveling while fat? Oh, we’re going there — and we’re taking the aisle seat and the window. In this episode of Big Sexy Chat, Chrystal and Merf are joined by the incomparable Jen McLellan: author, speaker, certified childbirth educator, and the force behind Plus Size Birth and the Plus Mommy Podcast. Together, they dive into the joys and frustrations of navigating the world in a fat body when it comes to planes, cars, and hotel beds — with zero shame and maximum honesty. From sea...

Send a text In this juicy, gear-loving episode, Chrystal and Merf sit down with Rin Musick—award-winning road warrior, longtime adult retail expert, and current Brand Ambassador for Sportsheets. Together, they dive into fat-positive and accessible design in the world of BDSM and sex gear, including the now-iconic Plus-Size Doggy Style Strap and the groundbreaking Pivot Collection. This episode is overflowing with laughs, sex-nerd joy, and real talk about body diversity, kink, and pleasure inn...

Send a text Chrystal’s out, which means Merf and Asherlee are left unsupervised—and naturally, chaos ensues. But beneath the laughter, we get real. We talk about fat liberation, therapy fails, the touch-deprivation epidemic, and how cuddle therapy can be healing AF. Plus, Asherlee opens up about launching a fat-friendly medical provider directory in the Pacific Northwest, her journey into cuddle therapy, and her newest adventure: relationship coaching. Spoiler alert: it’s all about connection...

Send a text Chrystal and Merf welcome the incomparable Marie Denee, founder of The Curvy Fashionista, for a real-talk episode packed with fashion, fire, and fat joy. Marie shares her journey from launching a blog in 2008 to becoming one of the most respected voices in plus-size media. We dive into fashion industry pitfalls, the power of representation (yes, including steamy werewolf smut), and how Marie’s pushing boundaries with her growing digital empire. This one is full of laughs, inspirat...

Send a text Chrystal and Merf are back with a bold and juicy new episode diving into Fat Con 2025, kink exploration, and radical fat liberation. 💥 Merf shares her journey into kink—including rope classes made for fat bodies, becoming a pleasure Dom, and creating a power exchange dynamic with her husband. 🔥 Chrystal dishes on Fat Con highlights, from powerful rope performances and fat-positive representation to surprise celebrity run-ins and fat joy in full bloom. 🎤 Merf also recou...

Send a text Are you really old… or do you just need to stretch? 🤔 In this episode, we chat with Vera from Flexibility with Vera, a flexibility trainer who helps folks—yes, including fat folks—move with more ease, less pain, and maybe even spice things up in the bedroom. 💃🔥 Vera shares her journey from diet-culture burnout to discovering joyful movement, how stretching helped heal her chronic pain, and why everyone (yes, that means you) can improve their flexibility—without needing to be a yog...

Send a text 💋 *We’re back, baby!* Season 4 kicks off with a bang—literally—as we dive into the world of pleasure products with the fabulous **Kim Card** from **Lovehoney**! This episode is packed with laughs, lube, and next-level orgasms as we put some of Lovehoney’s hottest toys to the test. 🔥 **What’s inside this steamy episode?** - The new *Blend* toy (a.k.a. *Finish Her*), why it's a *game-changer* for blended orgasms, and how it rocked our worlds. - The science behind **Wo...

Send a text This episode reflects on the significant milestones and conversations that shaped the fat community in 2024. From exploring the impact of sexual wellness products to discussing the complexities of dating and health, we take a look back at the triumphs and trials that defined our year. • Recap of the year and its highlights • Exploration of sexual wellness and enjoyment • Personal stories about dating in the digital age • Conversations surrounding menopause and h...